I heard about the Tetris effect a few years ago. I've heard or played the game "Tetris". This is a game where the shapes need to be placed together and placed properly, so there is no space. The more fields you fill in, the more points you earn. For those who have only played a few minutes, your brain is wired to recognize the patterns around you. In fact, when you go to the supermarket, you will try to find all the food patterns on the shelves.
As with the game Tetris, you can train your brain and look for other patterns of life. If you are originally negative, your brain is already trained to look for all negativity in the world around you. The same is true if you want to be a more positive person. Waking up every morning and concentrating on what you are grateful for, or looking forward to your day, you will start looking for all the good things in your life. Do you remember high school when the cute guy/girl finally asked you? Do you remember how happy you were? And I must have made your day better than average! Perhaps they worked well in class and had a great time after school. That's because something wonderful happened in your day and your brain responded to it and started looking for something really positive. The same thing is now possible in our lives. It's all a matter of perspective and motivation.
If you really want to have a nice day, focus on the positives, not the negatives. As a society, we have been trained to look for all the bad things around us. In fact, every positive story news has at least 10 negative stories! why? People are paying more attention to scary things than positive things, for that reason! This is a good example. Which scenario would be appropriate if you had an exciting conversation with a colleague or boss during work and blocked traffic on your way home? For most of us, the fact that the “madman” almost tears us on the street and barely thinks of the previous argument we suffocate the rest of the time. Interestingly, the person who cut us off never thinks of this incident again!
So how can you focus more on positives? Make positive things in your life mean more. Pay attention only when children are behaving badly and be trained to malfunction if attention is needed. The only way to solve the problem is to bring a positive feeling by when the child behaves properly and neglecting to cheat. They learn to get the attention they want if they do the right thing. The same applies to us. If you take only positive things into your life and neglect the negatives of the day, our brains react and see the world through pink glasses. I don't know you, but I want to see the world because of its potential rather than its shortcomings.